It is very easy for couples to get caught up in the magic of the post wedding, newlywed couple moment. However, it is essential to keep in mind that many people made your special day possible and a lot of time, effort, and money has been given to you and your partner. Show how grateful you are by following these basic, after the “I do” thank-you card etiquette tips.
Tip #1-Be Prompt
If you live by the philosophy, “Better late than never;” rethink this motto-quickly! You don’t want your guests to think you are ungrateful or entitled, so the sooner you send out your thank-you cards, the better. If you think you are too busy moving into your new home, unpacking wedding gifts, packing for your honeymoon; think again. Many brides bring their thank-you cards with them on their honeymoon and fill them out as they wait in the airport or during their flight. Generally, thank-you cards are sent two weeks after you receive the gift; immediately is best, but no later than three weeks after big day. This also gives brides time if they are using a photo from the wedding day. Buy your thank-you cards early — you can often save money by ordering your thank-you cards at the same time as your matching save the date cards and wedding invitations. And, you will have them on hand. Work in small batches! The last thing you want to do is get so burned out from writing that your notes start to sound cliché and your handwriting less than beautiful.
Tip #2-Thank-you Before “I do”
If you receive a gift or card from guests who aren’t able to make your event, or who simply wish to celebrate early, it is best to thank them immediately. You will be less likely to forget to send out a card if you don’t wait until after your celebration. Your thank-yous serve as an acknowledgement to friends and family members that you received their generous gifts.
Tip #3-Skip the Generic Thank-you
Some couples have a generic thank you message that they have printed on their cards. This one size fits all approach doesn’t seem genuine and may offend guests. Be sure to hand write each card, thank the recipient for each specified item gifted, and include a warm, personalize message to add a special touch. Your guests will be honored that you put time and effort into their thank-you.
Custom thank-you cards are always appreciated and are the furthest thing from generic. Thank you cards range from a classic ecru 3 ½ by 5 with a top fold and embossing to a 4.25 x 5.5 customized photo card. Take your time to pick a style that reflects both of you. If you are in love with your monogram (who isn’t?), remember that it is not appropriate to use your married monogram until after the ceremony. A good wedding stationery designer can guide you with the myriad choices or browse through the many choices available online.
Be sure to stick to these three tips to ensure you are prompt and express your gratitude in a genuine and meaningful way.